You know the old school saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?” As adults, we understand how untrue these words really are. Words hurt. They can cut deep like a knife opening up a wound in ones side.
This is doubly true in a marriage. When the one person who vowed before God to love and honor you cuts you with their knife of words it hurts a little more than anything anyone else could ever say.
Because of that, we should be intentional in speaking loving, uplifting words to our husbands. Not words of destruction.
There are specific words our husbands need to hear us say to lift them up and boost their confidence. We aren’t the only ones who need to be praised or told how much we’re wanted.
A little tip: two things a woman can do to make a man more completely hers is to let him know how much she supports him and believes in him. We can do that with our words.
As hard and rough as a man can seem on the outside, on the inside they’re just as soft, somettimes softer, than we are. We wives need to take care with our husband’s hearts and lift them up as often as possible.
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Here are 7 Things Your Husband Needs to Hear From You
I Love You
Simple enough, right? These 3 simple, little words mean more than you think. Just ask someone who’s never heard them.
You’re husband needs you to show that you love him with respect, but he also needs to hear the words. He may not always show it but he needs to hear these words from you.
Some examples could be…
“I love you so much.”
“I love you more than I ever have.”
“I don’t know if I could ever love you more.”
“I fall in love with you more everyday.”
“I love you more than the day I married you.”
I Want You
Your husband needs to hear that you to want him sexually, emotionally, and physically. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you want him not only with your actions but with your words.
Sending a text in the middle of the day to let him know you’re ready for him to get home for whatever reason (not to unclog the toilet) will make him more than ready to come home to you. Get creative in ways to let him know that you want him. Here are some examples.
“I can’t wait for tonight. I bought something extra special”
“I can’t wait for you to come home.”
“I’m ready to see you.”
I Appreciate All You Do
Everyone needs to hear appreciation. You’re husband is no exception. There’s nothing like letting him know that you appreciate all he does for your family to boost his confidence. If your husband is doing all that he can to provide for your family, tell him how much you appreciate all his sacrifices. Examples could be.
“Thank you for all that you do for our family.”
“Thank you for all the sacrifices you make to support us.”
“Thank you for cleaning the kitchen for me. You really look sexy when your doing it.” ( This may get your kitchen cleaned tomorrow night, too. You’re welcome.)
Spiritual Encouragement
When your husband takes the initiative to lead your family in Christ tell him how much you appreciate it and let him know that you pray for him. Do everything you can to encourage your husband in his walk with Christ.
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If this isn’t something he’s doing and you feel like he needs to, pray for him. If it will be well received, let him know that you’re praying for him to have the confidence to do this. Examples are…
“I’m so proud of you for leading our family in Christ. It means so much to me that you think it’s important.”
“I’m so thankful my husband loves Christ so much and that he wants to lead our kids in him.”
I’m Proud of You
Your husband needs to hear how proud you are of him. He needs to know that you’re proud to be his wife and that your proud of all his accomplishments big or small. Some examples could be…
“I’m so proud of everything you have accomplished.”
“I’m proud to call you my husband.”
“I’m so glad you’re the father of my children.”
Praise
If you have children do you praise your children when they do good? Think of your husband as a little boy that needs praise in order to feel good about himself and keep doing good.
Goodness, we all need praise every now and then, right? You can’t tell him enough that you think he’s a good man and good husband .
Don’t just praise him when you’re alone. Get brownie points and praise him in front of others. Here are some examples…
“I love when you put the kids to bed for me. It helps me out so much.”
“(Husband’s name) is such a good dad. He always prays with the kids before they go to bed.”
“Thank you for fixing the washer. I knew you could do it.”
I Admire You
Your husband needs to know that you look up to him and admire him as a man. As you go through the day and see him doing something you admire, tell him. Throw the word “sexy” in there a few times and your good to go. Examples are…
“I like the way you look in those jeans.”
“I love to watch you play with the kids. It’s really sexy.”
“Your so hot when your all dirty and sweaty from working.”
Of course, there are many more things your husband wants to hear from you. What are some things you consistently tell your husband?
Hope many women read this doesn’t matter if they are wives or soon to be wives or are still looking for their husband. This is wonderful to remember and put into action.
Yes Candy, read this stuff before you marry is great advice.
Thanx that much am a soon to be wife and am greatful have leant a thing about it hope to learn more thankyou
Encouraging our husband’s is so important. I know my husband and I in the last 2 years have started to say I love you more. Not like I love you more then you love me but we each say it just like the normal “I love you” but it is meant as “I love you more and more every day” I love the way he loves me and I tell him often but still probably not enough. These are good reminders even for those that have been married a long time.
Oh, yes. I think it’s very important to say I love you in a meaningful way. I didn’t state this above and probably should have, but it’s important for our kids to hear us say it to each other, also. I never heard my parent’s say it to each other and they were married for 30 years before my dad passed away.
April that’s great to hear! I agree with you. I love you should be said with all sincerity.
So convicting! Thank you for the reminder that I need to be building up my husband with my words. I love the variety of ways you reminded me to do this!
I need reminding all the time, too!
This is a great list and great encouragement! I definitely need to be more intentional about this!!
Thanks! We all need reminding from time to time!
It is refreshing to know that there are women who really know men this well. If more women would take the time to understand men, as men normally do of women, then many marriages would be spared separation. The things she lists in her blog are on point. I was initially taken back by the first item, “I love you.” Telling your husband that you love him has little meaning if he can’t see it in your day-to-day interactions with him (especially via sex and respect). However, the author brought that point out, which I normally don’t see with women authors writing about men. Rebecca is definitely in the know! Great article. More importantly, very accurate article from the perspective of a husband.
This advice is spot on and I’ve been married for 47 HAPPY years
Thank you so much I really needed to hear this and more please!